I get these types of questions a lot - people ask me if it’s okay for them to do “this,” if “this” is a good idea, or if they should be doing “this.” And by “this,” I mean something that they SHOULD be doing but instead, they’re holding back, just waiting for someone to give them the go-ahead or permission to do it. This is NOT meant for people who ask me somewhat specific questions - it’s meant for the people who ask me if they should get their real estate license if they want to sell real estate, if they should reach out to their friend/family and ask them about their real estate experiences, if they should start a business they've been researching for awhile. You get the idea.
It’s totally normal to want someone’s permission or approval before doing something - there’s almost a “safety in numbers” mentality where if enough people agree with something, you’re protected in the event it doesn’t work out. It also shifts some of the responsibility from yourself and onto the other people who told you to do “this.” However, it’s important to note that you can’t wait around for someone to give you the approval or “ok” that you should do something - it’s very important to learn to get in the habit of making your own decisions and take full responsibility for it. Come up with your own decisions independent of what everyone else says.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t take other people’s opinions into consideration. BUT, you shouldn’t allow someone to have that much influence on you that their word is set in stone whether or not you do something. Consider everything you hear but come to the decision on your own. Learn to get in the habit of making your own decisions and deciding what you do. This applies to just about everything 🙂
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31 thoughts on “Rant: this is why you need to make your own decisions…”
  1. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars IAM channel says:

    so how can we stop giving away our power ? and stop giving others the power to choose for us

  2. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Narcissist people I hate says:

    🧚🏻‍♂️☯️💒🌏🦅🌌

  3. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars OFFLINE says:

    Actually,we’re never making our own decisions.
    Scroll down,

    Apple or banana ?
    Whatever you picked your sure you picked it on your own right?
    Wrong.your body had actually had it planned a few seconds before you even thought about it.

    I’m too lazy to explain more

  4. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Justin Chojnacki says:

    Wow dude I don’t know what to say, but I think you stabbed my heart, confirming my deepest fears, making my own choices rather than finding comfort in knowing you can blame others, it all makes sense now, everything that’s happened it all happened for a reason and that reason is fear, I’m so glad I saw this

  5. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars FUZIONHERE says:

    Very good video Graham. Very insightful and valuable information!

  6. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Patrick Chosen 1 Brobbey says:

    I make the DECISION concerning my FUTURE NOBODY else MARK My WORDS 1000% more IMPORTANTLY is GOD is My WITNESS December 2022 – January 2023 Onwards

  7. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars lownassori says:

    this is for my writing..

  8. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Mike D says:

    Great video! I enjoyed watching!

  9. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Jeccy M says:

    You don't know how this video has helped me! My flatmates brought the idea of me getting a vaccination and they really pressured me, I told them I don't feel ready for it, but they don't understand that, they felt disappointed, I told them I'll do it on a self willing day but not by being pressured! Am glad I stood on my own decision and not them deciding for me!! Thank you for this💕💕💕

  10. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Mitch The king says:

    Indian parents need to see this

  11. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars crispy N gold says:

    Love your channel!

  12. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Danny Dabbles says:

    “SunCor Financial MPI review”

  13. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Jon Reynard says:

    "Just to clear up any confusion – I'm definitely NOT going to be selling any hats, jackets, shirts, etc. Just thought it was funny since so many YouTubers all seem to have their own clothing line they try to promote at the end of their videos. I ain't 'bout dat life ;)"

    Perfect example of how opinions change over the years lol

  14. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars A Penny Pinchers Guide to Personal Finance says:

    Great points Graham, we need to take full accountability for our decisions!

  15. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Yulan Luo says:

    I didn't subscribe your channel, even if I watched a lot of your videos teaching people how to make money and how to save money, until this one. I will recommend this video to my son, he's 10, but old enough to understand.

  16. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Waterfront Outdoors says:

    Graham this was a great video!

  17. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars BASIC NPC says:

    THIS IS WHERE THE MERCH STARTED. I FOUND THE HOLY GRAIL.

  18. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Donovan Fisher says:

    Today has been good. I have been watching you for a while, I am now watching all of your videos in my free time. I have fully decided to jump and attach my goals. I have started swing trading and am up 15% this month. It was a lot of hard work many hours learning from Ricky G. And others. I also today went to an open house to learn more about the path to get my license. I just signed up for my 2 day “real estate principals course” then I can take the state test. I’m on my grind. I’m 19 years old and just trying to have the future that I deserve. I don’t want to work harder than anyone at a 9-5 and just get a gift card. I want to see my hard work!

  19. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Hola! Vindelie Maze says:

    Word

  20. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Sy Guzman says:

    Not going to lie- I was like this when I was younger, too. For me, it was largely due to having been raised by a "Do-As-I-Say" father and then enlisting into the Army which is pretty much another "Do-As-I-Say" environment. Several years ago, I happened to hear Lady Gaga's song "ScheiBe" that goes, "If you're a strong female, you don't need permission." All Hell broke loose from there! LOL 🤣

    I realized that I was an adult and nobody "owned" me or could tell me what to do. Likewise, I didn't need to ask for anyone's approval. I must have sang "ScheiBe" everyday for MONTHS as my motivation.

    * You always post videos about a specific subject and I turn up with a comment about how I relate it to my personal life 🤣

  21. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Joseph Sy says:

    This is really good advice, many thanks

  22. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Variety of videos. says:

    Thanks for your videos Graham. love your enthusiasm and clear thinking approach in what you do. keep up the good videos. iv

  23. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Jessica Burroughs says:

    I'm way too frugal to buy that shirt but if you send one to me I'll wear the shit out of it <3

  24. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Oudwin says:

    I have a SUGGESTION. So you probably get 1k messages a day but this one is different, I have decided to do as you say and make my own decisions now if it doesn't work ill blame you :P.

    Ok seriously, I have seen some stuff here and there but you haven't made a video on questions (or if you have I haven't found it so far, and yes I have looked, although maybe not as well as I could have). So basically, would you be so kind as to make a video about questions: what type of questions did you go around asking in real estate offices? What are, in your opinion, some of the best real estate questions? What are the best questions one can ask?

    if you have time I, as well as hopefully a lot of other people, would be very thankful. After all "judge a man by his questions".

  25. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars swaguilar says:

    I thought this was gonna be deeper 😂 anyways yeah I feel you!

  26. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Marc Adams Reacts says:

    hey guys sub to sub

  27. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Jordan Washington says:

    Yooooooooooo love the channel bro

  28. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Joseph Vazquez says:

    hey man! i know you get hundreds of questions a day like you said but i had another one . i was wondering if its smart to turn 1 family homes and turn them into 2 family homes ? please let me know what you think of this. theirs a few that can be turned into 2 family homes but i just wanted your opinion on it and it worth it? thank man cheers!

  29. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Darin says:

    dig this one Gmoney

  30. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Motownzfinest says:

    "At the end of the day, Your decision is the only one that really matters."… I've watched a few of your videos so far and I must say. I. AM. FUCKING MOTIVATED to get this money… Thanks for being awesome!!!

  31. Avataaar/Circle Created with python_avatars Graham Stephan says:

    Just to clear up any confusion – I'm definitely NOT going to be selling any hats, jackets, shirts, etc. Just thought it was funny since so many YouTubers all seem to have their own clothing line they try to promote at the end of their videos. I ain't 'bout dat life 😉

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