This is tom nash and here's a story for you so as a little little boy. I grew up with abundance. We had everything then we became poor broke with absolutely nothing. Which was a crazy shift.

But here's the crazy part my dad and my mom were so crafty and smart that we went from being broke and poor again all the way to upper middle class. Within probably seven to eight years which is hella impressive especially now in my 40s. I have to look at this and say wow how the do they do that so basically what happened is as an eight nine year old. I basically had nothing and then throughout my teens things progressively slowly got better.

But i actually had to work for a living quite a lot i watched cars. I did a lot of jobs. But then my dad actually bought a business when i was about 17 years old my dad bought the business and it was a catering business and i went to work there and i was blown away lots of these employees this huge business and it was my father's and i was like wow. I'm impressed.

But also i had this sense of entitlement. I basically felt like i owned the joint you know because it's my dad i get to do whatever the i want so i drank some beer sorry i didn't mean to say that youtube. I mean root beer root beer. I drank some root beer and basically you know i did a lot of stuff.

And what ended up happening was a life lesson to me because very quickly my dad called me basically called me up and basically looked at me. And said listen take your go in the car. You're fired. I was shocked.

I was like this man just fired me my father and initially i was upset. I was angry. I was absolutely pissed off on him. How dare you not engage in nepotism.

Blah. Blah blah. Blah. Blah.

You know i was a kid. But that experience of getting fired that early really benefited me because i learned the hard way that life isn't about giving that you just want from people that just will give it to you like wow this really rattled me. But it made me a hard working person. I basically realized that i can be either extremely lazy.

Which i'm really good at or extremely hard working there's nothing in between for me over the years. I actually became very successful and i hired people i fired people i manage big teams. So have a perspective of what a good employee looks like and of course. I'm not the world's oracle or warren buffett or anything like that but you know in my prime.

I manage a team of about 15 people in a big company. So i know what look for an employees. So when an article like this comes out in cnbc saying. 93 of employers want to see soft skills in your resume.

Here are eight of the most demanded ones. I look at this article and basically i read. And i'm. A little bit confused communication skills customer service.

Scheduling. Time management skills project management. Analytical. Thinking ability to work independently flexibility all of this means nothing to me to be honest.

I look at this and i basically say well what the does this mean. I mean. This is none of the things that an employer is actually looking in an employee as far as soft skills goes. And i don't believe in this of separating soft skills and hard skills.

Let's talk about skills now let me tell you from my perspective. And again. Just my opinion. What i think employers are looking for in employees.

So let's go back to the main screen so look as a guy who actually hired a lot of people throughout my career. The first thing i look at is stability and i know i know these times you know 2022 everybody's job hopping like crazy. But if i can find somebody who stays at least five and six years at the same place of business. That's a good sign now for my latest company.

I spent a decade and that decade. I wasn't the only one my best friend from work was there right along with me so for the 10 years. We were there we were not that special it had a lot of good employees good employment and good companies they tend to get that from their employees. People don't leave good places of employment and we both started very very low.

We both actually became senior managers. A different story. But stability. It's the one thing.

We first look at we open the resume we open the cv. We want to see that you're not job hopping. Because if you're job hubbing. It means.

There's a problem you either can't get along or you're bored or whatever. The that is you want to see somebody that stays number. Two. We want team players nobody likes a lone wolf russell westbrook.

In the office. Nobody wants that we want to see somebody who's able to work in the team meaning they don't antagonize other they know how to take criticisms. They know how to basically work in a setting. Where they have to compromise and basically work together now we can see this from the resume that mainly this is something you find out through conversation.

You put the people in the group dynamic with another interviewer and you basically figure out very quickly who's the lone wolf and who's a team player. Now the third thing. I think was really important to us is can we trust this to work independently. And this is something they did say in the article and i'll give them credit.

But i'm going to elaborate on this a little bit you don't want to be basically supervising actively your team member every single moment of the day you want him to be self motivated basically you want him to feel as if it's his business. He's the owner and he's maxing out his effort to be as good as possible at this job. If they don't have that self motivation. We don't want them because that means you have to push them around every time now look in my previous job.

I had a horrible mistake. I basically went out and tried to actively pursue a client didn't say anything to the partner. I was working with i basically went to committing i came back i was all proud of myself. And then my partner called me up and said look you're an idiot.

This guy is somebody that we cannot work with for a hundred different reasons. And you shouldn't have done that without talking to me first. But then he told me look no problem i get it i much rather have a guy like you who's like driven and wants to get things done and makes mistakes that the guy just you know pushes papers and just goes to home you know at 5 pm. Like you know he doesn't give a now the next thing assertiveness nobody likes a yes man like if you're just there and say yes boss yes boss yes boss you have zero value absolutely nobody wants that you don't have to be an about it.

But you have to be able to assert your opinion. Otherwise you have no value for the team now also this is the thing i learned from a guy. I used to work with and there was gary and he was the chief compliance officer in the company. I worked with and he basically told me look my job is to give more answers than questions.

I loved it when he said that i loved when he said it and that's exactly the thing for your boss. You want to be the source of answers not questions so these people who come up every five minutes. Hey boss. What do you think i should do to you hey boss.

What do you think i should do here should i do this should i do that people who come more with answers have more value for the team hands down. Not answers real answers now the other thing is skill. We want to be on all this you have to know what the you're doing skill means you have experience skill means you have a good education with good grades and most importantly you know what the you're doing we're gonna test you and within two months. We're gonna see that your piece of that don't know nothing and it's gonna waste both of our time so be upfront about your skills.

The good and the bad number five or six. I kept track i lost already is basically we're gonna call your previous boss and we're going to find out if they like you or not if your former bosses and we're going to call a few of them are going to all say your we're never going to hire you so if you're leaving a place of employment make sure you leave in good terms. Because all your future employers will call and we'll find out what the you did in the previous work most importantly less soft skill passion you have to be passionate about the craft about this gig. Otherwise we don't want you if you're just bored.

And you're doing this because you have no choice and you need the money you're not of value to us we want somebody who's like super motivated and he's passionate about what he's doing if you talk to me about economics. Financials tax geopolitics. It excites. Me i'm not going to work as a dentist because i'm doing bro even if the money is double.

So we want to see that passion that fire now again my own perspective might be inaccurate might be wrong might be the remedies of a madman and at this point. I want to pose a challenge to you i just named a few skills. I'm sure there's more things i haven't thought of comment below. What are your top three skills for an employee that you think of comment below.

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