Here’s what I’ve found helps the most when it comes to how to be confident in life, business, and why this ends up also making you more money. Enjoy! Add me on Snapchat/Instagram: GPStephan
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For me, this is something I’ve spent a lot of time working on - I’m not naturally an extroverted person — deep down I’m a quiet, introverted guy who’s spent a lot of time improving the areas I felt needed work, because I didn’t want to be the dude who didn’t feel comfortable socializing with strangers or didn’t have the confidence to go after what I wanted, because I’d feel like I somehow wasn’t good enough or I didn’t deserve it. As we know, we don’t get what we want…we get what we are.
These are the 5 most practical steps to gaining more confidence over time:
Force yourself to do things that make you uncomfortable. You’re not going to grow as a person until you do this. If you’re scared of doing something, just do it. The whole point of this is to begin rewiring your brain to realize that you can put yourself in uncomfortable situations and nothing bad happens. You’ll slowly become more accustomed to thinking…I did something I was scared of…nothing bad happened…I felt better about doing something…I feel better knowing that I have control over my life and I make my own decisions…and I become more secure in myself. Keep doing this consistently.
Eye contact. This is a tough one, but it’s important. People who are confident have no problem looking someone in the eye - it shows that you’re sure of yourself and believe what you’re speaking. You become more controlled and purposeful in your entire attitude. Try practicing this. Next time you’re talking to someone, look them in the eye for as long as you can. Try for them to break eye contact first. It’s difficult in the beginning, but you’ll get better over time - and again, when you can look someone in the eye and tell them something - you will feel more in control.
Be yourself. Most people are walking around projecting an image they feel other people will like and accept. But these people aren’t the ones who command respect and have presence. The thing is, we all wish we could just truly be ourselves…flaws and all…and we ENVY others who just seem to be “them.” What I’ve found is that the more “you” you are, the more people ADMIRE that about you, and the more confident you become because you don’t have the “front” of trying to conform to what people think they want.
Accept that people will not like you. Sometimes you want to appeal to everyone - you don’t want anyone to dislike you, you want everyone to like you…you’re operating in the safe zone…but in the process, you end up not winning anyone because people don’t feel STRONGLY about you. The reality is that you will NEVER be able to win everyone, so don’t try. Be polarizing. Accept that people won’t like you and that’s OKAY…it’s a GOOD THING! Be happy someone actually doesn’t like you, because it’s not a big deal.
FEAR REGRET. Most people have the fear of loss…this is more powerful than the fear of gain. Tell someone “You could loss $100 or gain $100”…most people care more about holding on to what they have than to avoid losing it. But shift your mindset to fear of REGRET…imagine your loss is really your POTENTIAL. You LOSE OUT on being that person you COULD be, but your fear held you back. So the only thing you’re losing out if everything you COULD get if you tried. Think of that every time you’re afraid of losing something by playing it safe…don’t play it safe.
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Suggested reading:
The Millionaire Real Estate Agent: http://goo.gl/TPTSVC
Your money or your life: https://goo.gl/fmlaJR
The Millionaire Real Estate Investor: https://goo.gl/sV9xtl
How to Win Friends and Influence People: https://goo.gl/1f3Meq
Think and grow rich: https://goo.gl/SSKlyu
Awaken the giant within: https://goo.gl/niIAEI
The Book on Rental Property Investing: https://goo.gl/qtJqFq
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